Founder's Story
A journey of surrender, survival, and Spirit-led rebuilding—one brick at a time.
I used to abandon myself to meet the needs of others—partners, family, friends, employers, and anyone who needed something from me.
Not because I didn't have value, but because somewhere along the way I learned that my needs came last.
Long before I entered unhealthy relationships, I experienced the pain of being abandoned by my father. I didn’t realize it then, but that wound shaped the way I saw myself and how I moved through relationships. Instead of learning to honor my thoughts, needs, feelings, and boundaries, I learned to silence them. I became the one who overextended, overgave, and overfunctioned—believing it was my role to save everyone, and that love had to be earned rather than simply received.
As I grew older, those patterns followed me into every area of my life.
I became a people-pleaser, struggled with codependency, avoided conflict, and believed it was my responsibility to fix, rescue, or save others. I poured into everyone around me while slowly losing sight of the woman God created me to be.
I searched for identity in relationships, achievements, titles, creativity, and even different versions of myself—including constantly changing my name as a poet and music artist while trying to discover who I was. Looking back, I can see that I was searching everywhere for what only God could give: a true sense of identity, belonging, and purpose.
Eventually, my search led me to Christ.
Surrendering my life to Jesus changed everything. But although my heart belonged to God, many of the wounds and unhealthy patterns I carried had not yet been healed.
Because I was still living from a place of self-abandonment, I entered a relationship with someone who appeared deeply committed to God. He knew Scripture well, but instead of using God's Word to reflect Christ's love, he used it out of context to manipulate, control, shame, and distort truth. What I later came to understand was spiritual abuse.
Because I was still living from a place of self-abandonment, I entered a relationship with someone who appeared deeply committed to God. He knew Scripture well, but instead of using God’s Word to reflect Christ’s love, he used it out of context to manipulate, control, shame, and distort truth. What I later came to understand was spiritual abuse—but it was not the only form of harm I experienced. The relationship also involved psychological, emotional, mental, financial, and physical abuse. What appeared on the surface to be spiritual leadership was, in reality, a pattern of control that caused deep harm and confusion.
I didn't recognize the warning signs.
I didn't know what trauma bonding was.
I kept believing things would change.
Little by little, I abandoned myself again.
I ignored my own discernment. I neglected my emotional, mental, physical, financial and spiritual health. I stopped honoring my boundaries. My passions and business—the very purpose God had been stirring in my heart—was pushed aside as I spent my time, energy, and attention trying to hold together a relationship that was slowly draining me.
The hardest part to admit is that those patterns affected my children too. Because so much of my emotional energy was consumed by manipulation, confusion, and survival, there were times I wasn't emotionally and sometimes physically or financially as present for them as I desired to be. That reality grieved me deeply.
The relationship eventually led to seasons of emotional abuse, coercive control, dissociation, homelessness, exhaustion, and complete burnout.
Yet even in my lowest place, God never abandoned me.
At rock bottom, I cried out to Him—not simply asking Him to rescue me, but to restore me.
What God began rebuilding wasn't just my circumstances.
He began rebuilding me.
Through Scripture, prayer, biblical discipleship, therapy, and the gentle work of the Holy Spirit, God renewed my mind, restored my identity, and taught me what it meant to live from truth instead of fear.
He showed me that healing wasn't only spiritual—it was emotional, relational, physical, and practical.
He taught me that boundaries are biblical.
That obedience doesn't require self-neglect.
That serving others should never come at the cost of abandoning the person He entrusted me to steward first.
Perhaps the greatest revelation was this:
The deepest abandonment in my life wasn't only what had happened to me—it was how I had learned to abandon myself in order to survive.
Jesus wasn't simply healing what others had done to me.
He was teaching me how to stop participating in my own self-abandonment.
Brick by brick, He rebuilt my heart.
He restored my identity.
He renewed my health.
He gave me back my purpose.
He reignited my work.
He reminded me that my identity had never been something I needed to earn or search for—it had always been secure in Him.
That's why RedevelopHER exists.
What began as my personal rebuilding became a calling.
God showed me that healing isn't just about recovering from trauma. It's about rebuilding the life you stopped living while trying to survive it.
RedevelopHER was born to help women who have spent years abandoning what God entrusted them to steward their heart, their health, their purpose, and the work He placed in their hands—because of trauma, abuse, deception, fear, people-pleasing, codependency or misplaced identity. Here, women learn to stop surviving and begin rebuilding according to God's design.
Today, RedevelopHER is more than a brand.
It's a Christ-centered movement helping women rebuild their Heart, Health, and His Work through biblical truth, practical wisdom, wellness, healthy boundaries, discipleship, coaching, mentorship, education, and intentional community.
Because when God calls you to wholeness, He doesn't simply restore what was broken.
He rebuilds what was neglected.
One brick at a time.
Welcome Home.Welcome Home.
RedevelopHER is where women come home—not only to themselves, but ultimately to the identity God established for them in Christ.
A place where you stop abandoning yourself, your purpose, and your relationship with God to survive the expectations of others, the weight of trauma, or the deception of unhealthy relationships.
A place where healing becomes rebuilding.
Where faith becomes a firm foundation.
Where purpose is rediscovered.
Where your life is rebuilt according to God's blueprint—not the world's expectations.
You were never meant to pour from an empty cup or lose yourself while trying to hold everything together.
Together, we'll rebuild your Heart, Honor, Health, Hustle, and Higher Purpose.
One faithful step.
One brick.
One surrendered life at a time.
THE FIRST STEP TO REDEVELOPMENT IS SURRENDER
“Surrender is not breaking—it is yielding to the Potter who rebuilds what life has shaped. When the clay yields, the Potter reveals what was always intended.”
— Nia Saint-Levon